By Shanice Boyd
Have you ever found yourself in an intense argument or witnessed one? It is easy to let emotions get away from us and drive our conversation if we are not willing to do as James 1:19 instructs; “You must all be quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to get angry.” This scripture wants us to communicate with others effectively. However, if we don’t, conflict can’t be resolved (Proverbs 15:1) and instead will remain at the forefront of our minds whenever we see that person again. Also, communicating out of anger could cause the other person to shut down if they don’t feel safe, if they believe continuing the conversation will escalate negative emotions (Eph. 4:29-31). Lastly, as Christians, allowing ourselves to communicate in the flesh can ruin our witness (James 3:10-12). We want others to see Christ in our lives not only when things are going well but when discord finds a way into our conversations.