Wisdom In Restraint

By Shanice Boyd

Have you ever found yourself in an intense argument or witnessed one? It is easy to let emotions get away from us and drive our conversation if we are not willing to do as James 1:19 instructs; “You must all be quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to get angry.” This scripture wants us to communicate with others effectively. However, if we don’t, conflict can’t be resolved (Proverbs 15:1) and instead will remain at the forefront of our minds whenever we see that person again. Also, communicating out of anger could cause the other person to shut down if they don’t feel safe, if they believe continuing the conversation will escalate negative emotions (Eph. 4:29-31). Lastly, as Christians, allowing ourselves to communicate in the flesh can ruin our witness (James 3:10-12). We want others to see Christ in our lives not only when things are going well but when discord finds a way into our conversations.

3 thoughts on “Wisdom In Restraint”

  1. Thank you, Shanice. I hope many of us will read then apply these words of wisdom to our lives. Words spoken cannot be unspoken or taken back. May the Holy Spirit direct our answers and give us control.

  2. That’s a very important and challenging word to be reminded of. Later in James, he we’re reminded of how powerful the tongue is; being small in size yet large and powerful in it’s ability to cause destruction.


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